ORNAMENTS

The following are a few extracts of my readings last week.
Hope you will enjoy them .

Let Socrates speak first : "Could I climb to the highest place in Athens, I would lift my voice & proclaim -fellow-citizens, why do ye turn & scrape every stone to gather wealth, & take so little care of your child, to whom one day you most relinquish it all?"

I know many parents who don't find time to talk with their kids as he/she is busy through out the week. They are not free even during their weekend.If they pay a little attention and spend a few minutes of their time qualitatively with their children it will bring them more peace of mind and relaxation.
And it will never cause their world to turn upside down as well!!!
Beware that the time is not that far when your kids will be more busy than you are now.
Remember it.
If you you are not available to them when they need you, get ready for their learned careless behaviour at a time you need them the most.

Please don't think that every parent is like this .
The other day I read a different story .
Do you want to read it .
Here it is ...

A rich man died & left no heirs. When his household goods were auctioned off, an elderly lady dressed in shabby garments was the only one to bid on the picture of the dead man's son. It had been greatly cherished by the wealthy father because his only child had died at an early age. But the crowd that had gathered for the sale showed no interest in it. When the woman who bought the portrait was asked why she
wanted it, she said she had been the boy's nurse many years before, & had loved him dearly.
Later she examined the picture closely and noticed a bulge in the heavy paper on the back. Making a small cut, she removed an envelope which turned out to be the man's missing will. The document very clearly stated that he wanted to leave his property to the person who still held dear the memory of his beloved son.


Wait I have another thing to share with you :

Yes
you are right !

A poem whose author is still unknown to me ...

Just yesterday it seems my children
Played upon the floor
And I wiped countless fingerprints
From window pane & door.

I kissed away a thousand tears
And darned sock after sock
And tried to keep pace with the hands
That raced around the clock.

And often when at end of day,
Too tired to sleep, in bed I lay,
I'd think how nice when, children grown,
My time again should be my own.

So now I sit & rock alone,
My hands at rest, the work all done;
No little tots upon the floor,
No fingerprints upon the door.

No socks to mend, bruises to kiss--
Ah me! How could I know I'd miss
The very things I grudged to do
Dear God, if only there might be
Someone again who needed me!

Remember :"Wealth and children are an ornament of the life of the world. But the good deeds which endure are better in thy Lord's sight for reward, and better in respect of hope." THE HOLY QURAN 18:46

Give time to our family before it is too late

Dear friends ,

A few days before I read a story.I would like to share it with you here .It is a real life story by Stephen

Give time to our family

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

Remember :

Once a companion (May Allah be pleased with him) asked the Prophet (PBUH) as to whom he should show more kindness.

Prophet Mohammed Mustafa (Peace Be Upon Him )answered him "your mother",
He asked "then who?"
He(PBUH)answered ,"your mother"
He asked again,"then who?"
"your mother",answered the Prophet(PBUH)
He again asked," who next?"
Mohammed (PBUH) answered "your father".

Mohammed Mustafa (PBUH)told us " Heaven is under Mothers' feet".See , how high and respectable the mothers are that God put the heaven under their feet?

Mohammed Mustafa (PBUH) told us:
"When somebody's mother dies ,an angel shallm call him from the upper skies and tell him
"oh son of Adam(call his name),the first and the last one that loves you is now dead " and then all the angels feel sorry for him."

Abdullaah Ibn Mas’ood (RA) said: “I asked the Prophet (PBUH) which deed is most pleasing to Allah? He (PBUH) said: ‘Prayer offered on time.’ I asked him: ‘Then what? He (PBUH) said: ‘Kindness and respect towards parents."
So we must all use the chances to collect good prayers and warm hugs from our mother . We must give her all the kindness we can offer her every day without fail before it is tooooo laaate.

May God the Almighty help us to be a loving and caring child to our parents .

In conclusion let me quote a a verse from THE HOLY QUR'AN that shows the significance of obedience and gratitude due to parents: “And We have enjoined upon man concerning his parents. His mother carried him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be thankful unto Me and unto your parents ; Unto Me is your [final] destination.” [Quran 31:14]

Million Dollar Lesson

Friends here is a story for you . a real story by Petey Parker

Million Dollar Lesson

A cab driver taught me a million dollar lesson in customer satisfaction
and expectation. Motivational speakers charge thousands of dollars to
impart his kind of training to corporate executives and staff. It cost me a
$12 taxi ride.
I had flown into Dallas for the sole purpose of calling on a client. Time
was of the essence and my plan included a quick turnaround trip from
and back to the airport. A spotless cab pulled up.
The driver rushed to open the passenger door for me and made sure I
was comfortably seated before he closed the door. As he got in the
driver's seat, he mentioned that the neatly folded Wall Street Journal next
to me for my use. He then showed me several tapes and asked me what
type of music I would enjoy.
Well! I looked around for a "Candid Camera!" Wouldn't you? I could not
believe the service I was receiving! I took the opportunity to say,
"Obviously you take great pride in your work. You must have a story to
tell."
"You bet," he replied, "I used to be in Corporate America. But I got tired
of thinking my best would never be good enough. I decided to find my
niche in life where I could feel proud of being the best I could be.
I knew I would never be a rocket scientist, but I love driving cars, being of
service and feeling like I have done a full day's work and done it well. I
evaluate my personal assets and... wham! I became a cab driver.
One thing I know for sure, to be good in my business I could simply just
meet the expectations of my passengers. But, to be GREAT in my
business, I have to EXCEED the customer's expectations! I like both the
sound and the return of being 'great' better than just getting by on
'average'"

Remember :. "Blessed is He in Whose Hand is the dominion, and He is Able to do all things. Who has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving;"(The Holy Quran 67:1-2)

The Most Important Words

When it comes to getting along with your parents, the single most important word is please. The two most important words are thank you. The three most important words are I love you. The four most important words are How can I help? There is power and magic in each.

Saying please is polite and shows respect. The same goes for thank you. Nothing perturbs parents more than ingratitude. So look for ways to say thank you, whenever you can.

"Thanks Mom. Dinner was yummy."
"Dad thanks a lot for letting me visit my friends home yesterday . I had a great time."

I love you is the next most important phrase. In some homes, hugs and sure love yas are passed around freely. In others, it's not so warm and fuzzy. If that's your lot, try being a cycle breaker and starting a new trend in your home, where you express love and affection in one way or another. It only takes one person to get started.

How can I help? is the next most important phrase. Caution: Make sure your parents are sitting down when you try this out on them because it might give 'em a stroke.

"Mom, I know you're totally stressed right now. How can I help?"
"Oh, no! Look at kitchen . It looks like a tornado hit it," says your dad.
"How can I help, Dad?" you say back.

Remember "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour."
"And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: 'My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.'"
(The Holy Quran 17:23-24)

Yes , 4 you , dear husbands and wives

Most women want attention from their husband.
A surprise gift even without an occasion can make her very happy.
Compliment her from time to time. Tell her that the way she looks at life's ups and downs are really interesting .
Praise her for a good meal.
Tell her that you love her even more as days pass by.
Tell her how beautiful she is. Man , your wife is the most beautiful in the world provided that you look at her from the right angle.Move a little bit, adjust your lense a little more , tune your channel ... hearken to the melody ...
Women want to be pampered.

Men on the other hand, want appreciation to boost their ego.
They want to know how great they are.
They wanted to be treated like heroes.
Tell him how proud you are of him.
There are a lot of ways on how to make your spouse be in a state of bliss.
All you have to do is look for things that will make things pretty interesting, or try to draw interest by introducing new things.

Remember :
Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader, because apparently he or she
isn’t. The best thing to do is to tell him or her what’s going on inside your mind. Tell
your partner exactly how you feel about certain things.
With this on hand, most of the conflict can be resolved properly in just a snap of a finger.

Go and make the most enjoyable day in your married life today ....give a call to your beloved now ... enjoy the unenjoyed from your partner .

Read it at least once in a month ...

Let me share a story with you ...

Can I Borrow Rs.25/-?
A woman came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find her 5-year old son
waiting for her at the door.
SON: 'Mummy, may I ask you a question?'
MUM: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the woman.
SON: 'Mummy, how much do you make an hour?'
MUM: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the woman said angrily. SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'
MUM: 'If you must know, I make Rs. 50 an hour.'
SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: 'Mummy, may I please borrow Rs.25?'
The mother was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The woman sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the woman had calmed down , and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that Rs.25.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often.
The woman went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
'Are you asleep, son?' She asked.
'No Mummy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.
'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the woman.
'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the Rs.25 you asked for.'
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
'Oh, thank you Mummy!' he yelled.
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The woman saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his mother.
'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the mother grumbled.
'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.
'Mummy, I have Rs.50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'
The mother was crushed. She put his arms around her little son, and she begged for his forgiveness.

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life.
We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.
Do remember to share that Rs.50 worth of your time with someone you love.
If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

Remember :
“The best inheritance parent can give to his /her children is a few minutes of their time each day.”

I know you are here ... answer to my prayer !!!

Hi,

These days I am thinking of doing something different to the world on the basis of my reading and understanding of my surroundings .Hence this blog.

Parents ,teachers, students and professionals are in dire need of assistance from an outside source to be more effective in their roles. As I am a humble researcher in language, literature,religion and psychology I find it worthwhile to share some of my thoughts and ideas with the world .

Friends , we are unique in this world . Many have got blood group , certificates , birth place , nationality , religious background silmilar to ours , but we are potentially different from each other with our own perceptions of the world, childhood experience, hereditary traits, reading habits etc.

So here in this space we will share things which make us unique as an individual and tools and devices to beautify and empower our individualities .I wish many thousands of unknown eyes will visit my blog one day and spend their two or three minutes to take some thing out of this site so that they will pass it on to others with love and care .

I wish my friends around the globe shall contribute to make it a real place to visit and make it a unique place sharing and caring by their valuable suggestions and timely feed back ...

Dear friend, for you only I write , For you only I spend my time and energy .

Finally you reached my shore

I love to see you here every now and then.

Leave not my shore without a changed mind or a refined thought to serve yourself and the community innovatively .I am eager to listen to you .

Look , the sky is blue , the lawn is green ,

The brook is rhythmical , the breeze is fragrant .

When you are here with your noble thoughts

My world is changed to a better one .

Let's make this a cyber resort of greenery and scenery ...

Love and respect ... smile and tenderness

Am I too romantic ?Tell me ...